• Why Diverse Nude Art Is Important

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    Hello friends! I’m here this week to talk about why I think it’s important for us to be able to see more diverse people naked.

    Obviously, I am of the group of people that has some of the most privileges in this world. I’m white, able-bodied, thin, “conventionally attractive”, whatever the fuck that means. So it’s easier for people who look like me to be naked and be accepted for their nudity, but for people that have more intersections than I do, people that are Black, Brown, Indigenous, people of color in general, people with disabilities… are less visible in art because of many reasons, racism, sexism, like all of the things.

    If more people made art of people that look different than me: people with bigger bodies, people with darker bodies, people with visible disabilities, if more art was made of people like them, then I believe that people would be more accepting and understanding of a wide range of human experiences. And I also believe that if more people of intersecting experiences are able to see art of people that look like them, then it’s probably going to be easier for them to feel like they are accepted and like they are important and like they are art.

    I believe that all bodies are good bodies and that all bodies are model bodies, and I really would love to see more art of people that look different from me. I think it’s very important. I believe that the more diverse models that can be seen by society, the better off society will be. Obviously, like diversity equity and inclusion is kind of the thing right now, for a bunch of reasons. But it’s true. We need diversity. We need equity and inclusion. We need people to make art that is of a variety of different humans, and not just people that look like me.

    Because if it’s just of people that look like me, then all of these, racism, sexism, fatphobia, ableism. Those things are going to continue to run rampant because it’s just going to be compounded on itself.

    We need people to make art and share art and see art that includes people that look different from me. I am like “the norm” in art and I’m fucking tired of it, it is boring. I want to see more diverse people in art, and the more diverse art can be, the more incredible the art community will be, the more stories we’ll hear and the more we’ll learn, and the more we’ll understand other people’s experiences. I think art is kind of a universal language. And if we can see art that includes a variety of different people, then we’ll all be better off for it.

    Please make art if you are anybody that looks different from me! Please make art! Please make nude art! Please make self-portraits! Please make something that is different from me! I’m tired of seeing people that look like me in art! I want to see something else! Obviously, people that look like me in art are still good things, but I’m tired of it being the only art that is accepted and the only art that is seen as important, because that is not true. Art is for everybody. 

    If you would like to make art with me and Lior Allay and Roarie Yum, we are hosting a workshop in Ypsilanti Michigan on August 27 + 28 called Conscious Creativity. We’ll be creating self-portraits and also creating self-portraits in a group. Come and join us! If you can’t afford it, fill out our application for a scholarship. We would like to have you come! All the information is on the Eventbrite, I’m going to link it below.

    Art is important and the more diverse it can be, the better off humanity will be! Thank you.

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  • Why Nude Art Is Important To Me

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    Hello friends! Today I am talking about why nudity, specifically, is important to me in art and why I think it’s important to have nude art and participate in nude art and make nude art. 

    So, obviously there’s a bunch of kinds of art and I know that social media has kind of suppressed nudity and nude art specifically for probably a lot of reasons that I don’t agree with, but I believe that nude art is extremely important partially because it is literally the oldest form of art. The oldest art that has been discovered is of a nude body, it’s a statue and… you should check it out, go on the internet and search for oldest art. Since the beginning of art, since humans have been making art, they have been making art of nude bodies.

    I think that it’s important to show that nudity is not inherently sexual. That nudity can be for any variety of reasons. I mean sexuality can be part of that, but if that’s not an inherent part of nudity. Having nude art, to me, shows that our bodies are good. These are good bodies, no matter what your body looks like, no matter what shape size color ability. All bodies are good bodies. To me all bodies are model bodies. And if you’re able to be nude and create art and share that, then people that look like you can see that they are art too. 

    Our culture really tries to make us feel like we have to buy things and do a bunch of things in order to make our bodies better and in order to make our bodies “good”. They just want to sell us shit. They want us to have low self-esteem and buy all their things so that we can try to be better people, but being a good person has nothing to do with external visual things. Being a good person is what’s on the inside. 

    I feel like when I’m naked, I can more easily share what’s inside of me, on the outside. I don’t have anything to hide. I’m not covering my Self. I’m fully me and I feel like I can be more fully present when I’m nude. I feel like when I’m nude, I can feel into my body more, in a sensual way, and if I have clothes on it numbs that. Because my body is like, “oh it’s clothes. I’m just going to ignore the feeling of clothes because they’re there and it’s going to be a long time that they’re on.” So my body stops sensing as much. But when I’m nude, I feel like I can feel the breeze on my skin. My own touch. I can feel the sun, the warmth of the sun on my skin. I can feel if “oh, hey there’s an ant crawling up my leg”. I just feel like I’m more able to be in my body and feel in my body when I’m nude and to me, that’s a part of art, is if I can be fully myself and create art in that way, it’s that much more powerful than if I was pretending to be something else.

    Yeah, I think nude art is really important. I think the more people that can see nude art and understand or experience that nudity is not inherently sexual, then maybe we’ll have less traumatic experiences. Maybe we’ll have less shame. Maybe we’ll be less self conscious. To me nude art is really important, and the more of us that can make it and share it and look at it, the better. 

    If you would like to make a nude art with me, me and Lior Allay and Roarie Yum are hosting a workshop in Ypsilanti, Michigan, on August 27th and 28th in person, and we’ll be creating self-portraits individually and as a group, so if you would like to be a part of that, I have all the information below in the Eventbrite. If there’s anything that you’re curious about that is not answered by the Eventbrite, please let me know. I’d be happy to answer your questions. 

    Yeah, please join us! We would love to have you there. I’m so excited to make art with you! Yay, and we can be naked and outside! And yeah, we’re going to be on a farm, it’s like a permaculture farm / sanctuary, and they are fully cool with us being totally naked. We have permission to be naked in this space. So if you would like to join, the information is below. I hope to see you there. Bye!

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  • Sexualization + Consent

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    Hello, lovely people! Okay, in my last video, I talked about how nudity is not sexual. It’s not inherently sexual, its sexual if you make it sexual based on context and consent. So in this video, I’m going to talk about sexualization and consent, because as someone who’s naked on the internet, I get a lot of unwanted sexual attention from people specifically cishet men. *cough* Who like, I don’t know why but they just… because I’m me having like my bare breasts or my bare ass on the internet does not mean I want your sexual attention. That just means I have naked pictures on the internet. That’s all that means.

    I have been sexualized without my consent more times than I can count. Honestly, it was worse when I was on social media because I would get unsolicited dick pics or like masturbation videos from people that I had no idea who the fuck they were. Those are extremely uncomfortable to receive. If you are somebody who thinks that’s a good idea, it’s not. That’s only a good idea if the other person literally asks you for it. That’s the only time it’s a good idea to send a dick pic or masturbation video. I promise you. Nobody wants to see it unless they are literally asking you for it. Okay, If I don’t want to be like “AHHHHH” this whole time but I might. 

    So I know that there are some people who will sexualize me, just because I’m naked, because that’s the only way that they understand nudity. And I’d while I don’t agree with that because nudity is not inherently sexual. I understand that to a degree because our society, especially here in the United States. Our society is so like puritanical and it hides nudity from us unless they’re trying to sell us something and then they give us a lot of nudity and a lot of like tits and ass just to be like “here buy this thing”. So like the context around nudity in general, in our culture in the United States is really dysfunctional. So I know that there are people who are going to sexualize me just because I am naked on the internet. I don’t have any control over that. And people can do what they want to do with their own free time in their own private space. Like I… whatever their life is their life. 

    Whenever they bring that sexual energy and that sexual attention into my like conscious awareness and whenever they like, push that into my, like, bubble of like my life, that’s when we have a problem because that is not consensual. I do not consent to being sexualized. If you do it and never tell me about it and like never mention it and, like, it’s not a thing that I’m aware of like whatever.

    But as soon as you’re like, “yeah I masturbated to your video last night” or “oh my god, you’re so hot. I want to fuck you.” If you like send me a DM or something like that, that is… you do not have my consent to do that. That is a breach of my consent. I… no. I don’t consent to any of that. That’s when we have a problem. When you’re sexualizing me to my face or virtually to my face. You don’t have my consent to do that. I… no, I don’t tolerate. Yeah, that’s that’s when we have a problem, a big problem. 

    I do not consent to being sexualized. I don’t. If I wanted to be sexualized by someone, I would actually tell them. I’m a very communicative person in that regard. And if I wanted to have like a sexual situation with someone, then I would make that very clear. So, if I have not, which I probably haven’t with most people, yeah, I… you don’t have my consent. 

    Yeah, I don’t want to be like “I’m really angry and I’m bitching at the internet about it” for this whole video, but that’s kind of what it is and… it’s come to that. I don’t have much patience for this kind of shit anymore. I’ve been naked on the internet since 2010 and I have gotten a fuck ton of attention that I did not want because it was sexual. And I’m done doing that. So if you come at me in a sexual way, and I don’t even fucking know you, you better bet your ass that I’m going to block you. You don’t have my consent. You’re breaking consent. Your breaching consent. It’s non-consensual, so that’s what you’re choosing to do. So then I’m choosing to get you out of my space. Because that’s my choice.

    I hope some people can relate to this. I know I have a lot of friends in the, like photography, nude modeling world, that would relate to this. But I don’t know if the average usual person would relate to this. But yeah, if you didn’t get anything else out of this video, I hope that you at least get this message that I’m saying: if you are sexualizing me, you don’t have my consent to do that. So it’s only okay to do that if you do it, when I have no fucking idea it’s happening. In your own space on your own time. Not involving me at all. I do not consent to being sexualized. Nope. I don’t. No. I don’t want to be a part of your sexual fantasy. Yes. I’m naked. That has nothing to do with sex. See my other video if you’re confused.

     

    Watch my video: nudity is not inherently sexual

    I don’t consent to being sexualized. So don’t do it and especially don’t do it and bring my attention to it. I don’t want to fucking know, that’s none of my business. And my sexuality is not your business. I’m naked. Yes, but that has nothing to do with sex. Okay, the end.

    Yeah. Okay. I hope this video wasn’t too harsh for you. Maybe I did need to push some buttons. Maybe I did need to be harsh to get my point across but I yeah, I’m just fucking tired of getting unsolicited dick pics and unsolicited sexual attention. None of those are consensual. So yeah. Not cool. Not cool at all.

    Okay, if you have any information about things that you would like to see me share, I’m going to put a survey below and you can let me know what you want to see for me. Otherwise, thank you for being here on my website. I love you so much. I might sound angry from earlier. But yeah, I’ve allowed to be angry. I’ve been… my consent has been breached a lot of times. So it’s about time for me to be upset about it. Okay. I love you. I hope every great day and I’ll talk to you soon! 

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  • Nudity is not inherently sexual

     

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    Hi, good morning. Well, I don’t know if it’s morning where you are, but it’s morning here at my house right now when I’m creating this so good morning. My voice is a little weird, but it’ll be fine. So I’ve been talking a lot about nudity recently and I’m gonna keep that trend going for this video.

    I’m going to talk about how nudity is not inherently sexual. I think this is important for a lot of people to hear because I think in our current patriarchal puritanical culture nudity is either shamed or sexualized or sexualized to sell something or just like hidden in general, which kind of goes along with the shaming part. And I just want to talk about it. Let’s talk about it. Obviously. Like I’m naked right now, so I don’t believe any of those things that I just said, in terms of it being shameful or sexual. So yeah, let’s talk about it.

    Okay, so we were all born naked. Like we didn’t come out with clothes on. And that is not a sexual experience whatsoever. We have to get naked to shower and that’s not a sexual experience. I mean, it could be, but it’s not inherently a sexual experience. showers are for getting clean, you know, washing your body. You have to be naked to be able to wash your body. There’s nothing sexual about it. People who have had a baby and if they are breastfeeding, that is a way that they are either nude or partially nude… in order, to perform a function like to feed their baby. That’s not sexual.

    There are so many things you can do naked. And it has nothing to do with sex. Like, you can clean your house naked. You can go on a walk naked. Well, if you have a safe enough place to go on a walk naked. You can cook naked… maybe with an apron to protect your skin if there’s gonna be any like popping oil or something, but like literally there’s so many things you can do, naked that have nothing to do with sex or sexuality or like being sexual and it doesn’t make sense to me I guess because I grew up in a house where nudity was not a big deal. And I really feel like people who grew up in a really like, “let’s hide that away. This is shameful, nudity is bad.” The people that grew up that way are the ones who grew up thinking that anything that’s nude is inherently sexual because like, “oh, that was something I was not allowed to experience when I was younger so there must be something about it that’s like bad or reason why I shouldn’t have experienced it so maybe that means that it’s all sexual.”

    It’s not… this is not a sexual video. I am 100% naked. I’m not wearing anything. I don’t even have socks on, like this is not a sexual video whatsoever. I’m naked and it’s not sexual. Who woulda thought?!

    Okay. So on the other side of that. So nudity is not inherently sexual… on the other side of that, you can be completely 100% covered in clothes and be in a sexual situation. The sex part has nothing to do with the clothing or not clothing part. They’re totally separate. Completely separate. I wish more people would understand this, and I’m not sure how to articulate it in a way that people will understand, because it just like makes sense to me, and when things make sense, I don’t always know how to explain it because it’s like, “yeah, duh.” So I just like, I don’t know. I’m trying to, I’m trying to describe this to y’all in a way that might hopefully change some people’s minds or maybe plant a seed. 

    So from my opinion, and I hope there are a lot of other people that also have this opinion. I’m pretty sure there are. Things that are sexual whether it’s sexual or not is based on the context and whether or not there’s consent. So context is so important! This context right now, I’m making a video and talking to you about something. So that is more of like an educational or informational context. That’s not sexual. Yes, I’m naked, I have no clothes on, but this is not a sexual context. 

    Another example, let me give you a clothing as sexual context. Maybe I am on a date with someone and we already have like a sexual dynamic going on and there’s consent involved and they know… I know, or they know, or we both know ideally, we both know that there’s consent in terms of like, yeah, let’s make this a sexual interaction, but maybe we’re fully clothed. But maybe we’re like really flirty. And yeah, that could definitely be sexual with no nudity, with lots of clothes, fully clothed. Context and consent matters.

    Okay. I don’t wanna repeat myself too much. I feel like you hopefully have gotten the point by now. I don’t know how to explain this in any other way at this moment. But if I think of something, I’ll make another video. But bottom line, nudity is not inherently sexual. If you’re naked, that’s not an invitation for sex. Or sexual attention. Period. The end.

    OK, I hope you got a lot out of this video. I hope you enjoyed it. Do you have something you’d like to hear from me? I have a survey, you can let me know what kind of content you would like to see. I’ll link it below. Thank you for being here. It means the world to me that you are even on my website at all. Thank you! I love you!

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  • Why I Don’t Call Myself a Nudist

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    Hi. Okay. This video will be a little more serious. And yeah, let’s dive in. Okay, I have had a bunch of people call me a nudist, and I have never personally used that label for myself. And this video is going to be about why I don’t use nudist as a label for myself, personally. I don’t have anything against nudists. I’ve just noticed a familiar pattern with a lot of them. That I think is kind of not so great. And yeah, so let’s talk about it.

    So the first reason I don’t call myself a nudist is because people have forced that label on me enough that I’m just kind of refusing to use it because people just assume that I am and it makes me really annoyed. And I want to push back against it and say I’m not. So non-consensual labeling of me as a nudist is one of the reasons that I don’t call myself a nudist. 

    Also, there’s kind of an assumption with nudist that they are always naked and never want to wear clothes, or like hate clothes. Clothes are useful and helpful sometimes so, like, I don’t hate them. Also, they’re fun for expression and stuff. So, yeah, I don’t hate clothes and I also wear them sometimes. One of the big reasons why I don’t call myself a nudist is because the nudist community seems to be pretty exclusionary and gatekeeping if I’m honest. Most of the nudist people that I’ve met or know about are cishet white men, that are usually older than me. A lot of them are like maybe Boomer age and they have money, and they have a lot of the same ideas about what nudity should be and like, how nudists should be, and it seems like a lot of them kind of hate on tattoos and body modifications and say that it’s like “violating the sanctity of the skin” or whatever, but that that doesn’t fly with me. 

    A lot of the nudist spaces like nude retreats and nude resorts and stuff, a lot of them you have to have money to be able to be there. So that automatically excludes like a fuck ton of people. Obviously, like everyone has bills to pay and sometimes doing something for free is not the best idea, but if nudism is about including everyone and everyone being equal and just naked. Why is it that most nudist places are full of cishet white men that have money? That’s my question. Something about those nude spaces makes it so that people that are not cishet white men don’t feel comfortable there or don’t have access to those places.

    So yeah, I am not a nudist. I don’t expect other people to be naked around me. I don’t hate clothes. I’m not always naked and I just I don’t want to be associated with a community of people that have been pretty gatekeepy from my experience. So yeah, that’s why I don’t call myself a nudist. I’m just me and I’m just naked a lot. I’d say that my nudity is more a part of my ecosexuality and like neurodivergence than anything else. I just, being naked as comfortable. I like it. There’s not that much else to it. Like it can have a lot of meaning and depth behind it. But like honestly it doesn’t have to. I can just like being naked and not be a nudist. That’s how I feel.

    Okay. Yeah, if you have any questions about nudity or anything that I’ve posted in the last few years like anything I’ve talked about. If you have any questions for me, please comment below or answer my survey. I’ll put the link below, or send me an email. I would love to hear from you. I’m making these videos based on what people have been asking me. So I would love to hear your thoughts because then maybe I can make a video about what you’re wondering about. Okay. Thank you for being here. I love you so much, and I will see you soon!

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  • How To Include Nudity in Your Everyday Life

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    Hey friends, welcome to another week of talking about nudity. Yeah, so this week I’m going to talk about how to include nudity in your everyday life. So last week’s video was how to be more comfy naked and this is going to kind of be an extension of that because the way that you usually get more comfortable with things is by practice and actually having the experience. So, yeah, if you want to put more nudity in your daily life, let’s talk about it.

    Like I said in the last video, it’s really good to start small and maybe just start at home by yourself. So, some things that you can do in that regard would be maybe sleeping naked or going topless when you’re alone in your room. Maybe if it’s possible to do it safely, maybe do some chores naked, maybe doing some mirror work while you’re naked. One thing that I personally love to do is to take self-portraits when I’m naked that uh… you definitely can do that. If you have a cell phone, you already have a camera so you can take self-portraits. One of my favorites. I have so much to say about self portraits. We’ll get more into that in another video. Yeah, self portraits naked are like super fun and you have full control. If you hate the photo you can delete it. If you love it, you can share it or just keep it to yourself.

    So other ways to include nudity in your everyday life, if you have friends or family that are cool with nudity, maybe you can invite them over and hang out and have like a naked dinner party or something. Maybe you can have a naked book club or naked game night or naked “let’s hang out by, I don’t know, my backyard”, whatever things you would do normally with your friends. Maybe just do some of them naked if that was available to you.

    More ways you can include nudity. You can have a naked party at your house like invite a bunch of people and, you know, give it a theme. I don’t know, what would you do at parties and just make it naked. You can go to a nude yoga class. So people are doing them online. Some people are doing them in person. Those are a thing, naked yoga, so maybe you could go to a naked yoga class. You can attend a nude gathering virtually or in person. I host those on a semi-regular basis. I’ve been doing the virtual ones much more than the in-person ones since the pandemic. But, yeah, you get, you can do one of those. You can host one yourself.

    You could go on a naked hike, so I think there’s like an actual day. It’s like national naked hiking day or something. I need to look it up. I don’t remember much about it. But there are some places where you actually can be naked in like a public outdoor setting. You might need to check the laws in your area and see if you have any clothing optional spaces near you, but that could be an option. Also, there’s World Naked Bike Rides that are happening around the world at certain times of the year, so you might enjoy one of those. Sometimes there’s even like nude retreats and big and nude events. Like Sentient Fest is happening, I think it’s early August and that’s a clothing-optional festival that’s like pretty big, I believe. I’m hoping to be there. I really hope. We’ll see. So there’s a whole bunch of things that you can do to include nudity in your everyday life. I hope it helps you. Have a great one. Love you. Bye.


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  • How To Be More Comfortable Naked

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    Hey friends, talking about nudity, some more! Yay! This video is about how to be more comfortable naked. I’ve had a bunch of people ask me about this. So I’m just going to share some thoughts I have on it. This isn’t really super cohesive and it’s probably not comprehensive either, but this is just something I’ve been thinking about recently and I wanted to share my thoughts with you.

    So if you don’t feel comfortable right now, being naked and you want to start to feel more comfortable naked, what I would do would be to start small, like this is a process and we all have a lot of like bullshit that was taught to us by society and a lot of people around us about the way that we’re supposed to be and how bodies are supposed to be and how like sex happens and like what nudity means, and it’s hard to brush off that like societal bullshit and like say “I don’t really care about what that society thinks.” So this is a process that should happen over time. Nothing is going to be immediate and you’re probably not gonna have like a lightbulb moment of like, “oh, suddenly everything’s fine. And I’m totally comfortable being naked.” It’s probably gonna be a gradual process over time, and that would be different for every person. So there’s no like rush to get comfy naked. This is just some things that I can offer you as ways to maybe start and see how you feel.

    So when I say start small, I really mean start small, like maybe you don’t even get naked yet. Maybe you seek out content that is nude that is non sexual, that maybe also includes people that have similar bodies to you, if that is something you can find. Just seeing that other people can be nude and be just like, a normal everyday thing can be really helpful for us, even if we’re not personally ready to get naked. Just seeing that that’s a possibility in the world can open our minds to like, “oh, okay. This actually does exist. Maybe maybe that can be for me too.” So yeah. Seek out nude non-sexual, you know, normalized nudity and super bonus points if you can find people that have a similar body to yours. That would be super extra great.

    If you want to actually start doing some naked things, maybe just go topless in your room for a while. Just you, by yourself in your room without a shirt on, or without pants, or without one article of clothing that you usually wear, like, start really small. You don’t have to do everything all at once. You just do bit by bit. And do that maybe a few days a week, whatever feels right for you and your schedule, starting out small like I said.

    You also could… one thing I really like to do is dance naked in the mirror or just like talk to myself in the mirror or yeah, just like, look at myself in the face. So maybe you could do that with one less article of clothing. Just be in the mirror slightly less clothed than you usually are and maybe say nice things to yourself or maybe a listen to a love song and imagine you’re singing it to yourself in the mirror, instead of singing it about someone else, sing it about yourself, sing a love song to yourself. That’s like super powerful to me.

    You… if you would like to be more comfortable naked and include other people, maybe reach out to some friends and see if they might be comfortable hanging out with you naked or topless or something. Having the actual experience of being nude around other people and it not involving sex is a really empowering and like affirming experience. So, I hope that everyone gets a chance to do that. 

    If you want to include more nudity in your everyday life, I’m going to talk more in depth about that in the next video, but I wanted to give you a starting point of where to start, maybe if you’re feeling really insecure about being naked but you really are curious about it and want to try but you’re just like, “I’m still scared.” I hope that this video helped. Yes, okay. Thank you for being here. I love you and I will see you next week. 


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  • How To Get Someone Naked

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    Hi friends. I have heard a lot of questions recently from people regarding nudity. So I’m going to kind of dive into that for the next couple of videos. And this one, this video is going to be about how to get someone naked. And I chose that title for a reason because it’s kind of misleading. It’s more like click baity than anything. But this is true. I will share with you how to get someone naked… if they already want to get naked.

    So number one, consent is the most important thing. If they want to get naked, they’re going to get naked. If they don’t want to get naked, do not force them. You can’t just get someone naked. That’s why I titled it this because I’m hoping that someone that needs to hear this is going to find it. 

    If you want someone to be naked and they don’t want to be naked, that is their choice. Not yours. They get to choose what to do with their body. If they don’t want to get naked, you have no control over that. All you can do is accept it and say, okay, cool thanks. Period. 

    So if you are around someone who you’ve discussed things with and they are consenting to be naked potentially, but they’re not ready for it quite yet, but they’re open to the idea. Here’s how you do it. We are never going to, like I would never encourage someone to coerce someone into something. That is not what we do. That is not consent. Coercion is not consent. Asking someone over and over and over again until they say yes is not consent.

    If someone is already curious and excited about the idea of getting naked and they’re just not quite sure when or where or how yet, you can create an environment that makes them feel safe, and give them the space that this is a clothing-optional environment. This is a clothing optional space. And then maybe they might decide that they want to get naked.

    So, a couple ways you can do this, to create a space that’s safe and comfortable for nudity. It’s usually best to start off with a place that’s private,  somewhere in your house, a room. Maybe if there’s like a private backyard, if you want to be outside, privacy is pretty important. If you’re going to be doing something that someone is not used to doing, I’m kind of used to it, but a lot of people are not, so privacy would probably be my number one helpful thing. If you have a private place where you know you’re not going to be disturbed and where the person is able to feel comfortable and know that they’re in a safe space. That would be awesome. Private safe space.

    You can make that private space more comfortable by maybe regulating the temperature of the space. Is it too cold? Is it too hot? Can you make the space at a comfortable temperature for nudity, a comfortable temperature, for nudity, might be different than a regular comfortable temperature with clothes on. You can have comfy things around like pillows and blankets maybe, so some restful time and space.

    Maybe you… if it’s okay with them, maybe you get comfortable and naked first. If they consent to you also being naked, that way you can introduce them to like being nude in the space that they’re in, in a non-sexual way, in a non like pushy way. Because you’re the one that’s getting naked. You’re like opening that door of like, this is now a clothing-optional space. If you get naked, they might also feel comfortable to get naked if they know that there’s like an even playing field. 

    Yeah, also just give them permission, let them know that is clothing optional. It’s not, “if you’re here you have to be naked”, or “if you’re here you have to be clothed”. They get to choose what to do with their body and how much or how little clothes they have on in that space. Like if you just, if you make that a known thing, if you communicate that with them, that’s kind of… that’s the recipe for success, a good private safe, comfortable space, where clothing optional is a thing, without any pressure or expectation on them and letting them choose what’s best for them. That’s how you get someone naked if they want to already be naked, if they already want to, that’s how you do it. But you can’t force them. I will forever remind you. Yeah, that’s how you get someone naked. If they already want to be naked, make it a comfy safe space. 

    I hope you have some fun naked times with friends, if they want to be naked and you want to be naked. Yeah, you might also… sometimes it’s good to have an activity or something to do like play a board game or something. Because if you’re just like sitting there twiddling your thumbs staring at each other naked it’s a little awkward. But if you have like a thing to work towards or something to like occupy your hands, or your thoughts, that also might make it a little more comfy, so it’s not as much pressure on, like, “oh my gosh. I’m naked and people are staring at me.” It’s more like, “okay, this is just another day, and we’re doing random normal fun friend things. It’s just we also happen to not have clothes on.” That’s how you do it. Okay. I love you. Thank you for being here. I hope this isn’t too long. I tend to repeat myself. Okay, I love you! Bye. 


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