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  • My Personal + Business Goals for 2022

    January 15, 2022 /

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    Hey friends! Last week I talked about making goals and this week I want to share with you what goals I’ve come up with for myself. These will probably change over time and I will probably add to them and change them and things like that. So this is like a working list and it doesn’t include everything but it’s a start. So I wanted to share with you and it’s okay if I don’t have everything figured out because it’s only January and we have a whole year and things change and that’s like a part of life and that’s okay and there’s nothing wrong with that. So I feel like it’s better to have some goals than to not have any at all and even if they change that’s okay because like everyone changes and learns and grows over time, so starting off with some goals whether or not they’re like permanent forever goals, at least there’s a start and that’s something to work off of.

    So, here are some of the goals that I came up with for myself. So, some personal goals that I have. I already talked to y’all about some of these, but I’m just going to go over all of them. So, personal goals. I want to journal every day. I want to do energy every day. I want to take a walk outside once a week or more. I really want to complete my tattoo or get closer to finishing it. I don’t know if that will be completed this year in 2022 just because of how much we have left. But at least continue that process to get closer to completing it. I want to connect more with friends. I want to like text my friends more, see them in person more, hang out with friends. Make more friends. I feel kind of lonely, so friend things, please yes.

    I have several online courses that I’ve signed up for that I want to complete. So those are some more personal goals when I complete those e-courses and I want to read at least 10 books. I think last year I read eight or nine books. I think I actually read more, but the ones that I wrote down were eight or nine. And I don’t know if I wrote all of the books down that I read. So. Yeah, I’m going to actually keep track of that this year. What books I’ve read. So I want to read more books. And those are the start of my personal goals list, at least.

    Business goals. So I like I said, I’ve kind of talked about some of this in the last video, but I’m going to review it a little bit. So business goals. I want to monetize my YouTube which means I need at least a thousand subscribers and at least 4,000 watch hours. So I’m going to plan to create one longer video a month. And at least one short every week in order to hopefully get closer to being able to monetize my YouTube channel.

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    I want to continue doing these Vlogs every week for my website, for y’all because I love you. So a goal is to do a vlog every week. I would like to increase my total income. So I have a like a dollar amount goal to work towards. Right now I’m just like, I want to have a fifteen hundred dollar a month because most months I’m like hovering around a thousand bucks, so my goal is to increase that.

    I want to come up with one free thing to give to people every month. So whether that’s like a worksheet, a checklist, a video, like an online event, something just like one free thing for people every month because I feel like I don’t want to have everything behind a paywall. I want to be able to help people and I’m more able to help people if they have access to it for free. So, I want to make more free content.

    I have been dreaming about making a self-portrait online course, for probably three or four years now and I still haven’t done it. So that’s a goal, is to like work towards that this year, is launching an online course. I want to teach and facilitate more workshops, so that’s another goal is to do at least one or two or three workshops, whether online or in person, this year. I would really like to do that.

    I want to be on some people’s podcasts. I want to get my name out there that can be part of my, like, marketing strategy. Also podcasts are another way to get myself in front of more people. And also, a way to help more people if because, you know, hopefully the podcast that I’m on will be free. So another way to support people through what I know and the things that I can share. So I want to be on some podcasts. 

    Last year, I applied for I think two different residencies and I didn’t get either one, but I want to apply for more residencies because I would actually like to do a residency, an artist residency at some point. So I can only do that if I apply for them. So I have a goal of applying for residencies. And then I think I would really like to Mentor a queer artist like somebody who is just starting in the realm of art, photography, creativity. Since I’ve been doing this for over 10 years I have a lot of knowledge that I can share, so I would like to mentor a queer artist, so that will be another goal of mine.

    Yeah, okay. So those are some of my goals for 2022. I probably am going to update and change these overtime but that’s at least a start. And so, now that I have this list, I know what I can work towards and what things that I need to do on a more regular basis in order to meet those goals. 

    Yeah, goals are kind of hard and also awesome at the same time. I am the kind of person, I’m kind of a perfectionist and I… a lot of the time I struggle with not starting something because I want to do it perfectly, so I just don’t start it at all because I’m scared of failing. So I just don’t do it. And if I think about it, if I don’t start at all, that’s immediately a failure. So I’m like… I’m failing myself before I even start, so I want to not do that.

    And I want to actually, I want to fail. I want to fail some. I want to get some nos. I want to like… I want to apply for things and have people reject me because that’s the only way that I’m going to get over this, is if I actually do it and get rejected and be like, okay, I’ve learned something. Now I can work on something else and continue to get better. So yeah, maybe another goal is to fail some because I need practice with that, because it’s better to fail and learn something than to not try at all. 

    And I’m still learning this for myself, but I wanted to share with you a lot of these things that I share that are like, inspirational and helpful and things like that. It’s also for me because I need help too. And sometimes I need to just listen to my own videos so that I can help myself. So yeah, okay.

    Yeah, so thank you for listening to my goals and I hope that you can set some awesome goals for yourself. And, yeah, I love you so much! Thank you for being here! If you have anything you’d like to share with me, like, goals that you have set or questions that you have about my goals, you can comment below. I’m also going to put the link to my survey below. If there’s anything in particular you want to hear from me. That way I can make the content that you want to see! So link to the survey is down there. Okay. I love you so much! Thank you for being here! *mwah*

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  • Goals vs Resolutions: Brainstorming Personal + Business Goals

    January 8, 2022 /

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    Hello friends! Today I wanted to talk about goals and I feel like that’s probably something that a lot of people talk about at the beginning of the year because a lot of people have resolutions and things like that, but I want to talk about why I do goals instead of resolutions. So let’s dive in.

    I feel like… I feel like resolutions are maybe not super supportive to people sometimes because there’s this expectation of like I’m a set a resolution and I’m going to do this thing every X amount of time. And if I don’t follow through this resolution, for the whole year then I’m a failure or, you know, like, it doesn’t mean anything, if I didn’t do it the whole year, or if I didn’t meet, whatever that resolution was.

    To me goals feel a little different because they feel like this larger thing at the end of a certain amount of time that you kind of break down into smaller pieces and work towards throughout time like throughout days weeks, months years. And that feels less, it feels like less pressure and it feels like a more consistent like way to meet that goal. Because for me, if it’s a resolution, it’s like I’m going to do X thing every day, or I’m gonna I don’t know. What are some resolutions? And goals, feel more like, oh, there’s this thing that I want to achieve. So, how can I break that into a lot of smaller pieces so I can work on it a little by little throughout time like throughout whatever the time frame is.

    Goals, just feel more achievable than resolutions to me. Also, I feel like… I feel like I have, maybe… How do I say this? I have had goals in the past and I have met them or mostly met them. And I’m at a point right now that I don’t know what my next goals are. So I feel kind of lost. Because the goals that I had, I’ve like, I’ve met the goals, like, my largest goal that I’ve had recently is to, like, get a van and go on a road trip, and I did that. I got a van in 2018, and I went on my cross-country road trip in 2019. And if you’ve been here any amount of time, you’ll know a lot of things happened in 2019 for me and my life kind of like broke apart and then came back together in a different way, and I feel like right now, I don’t know what goals I have and that is kind of frustrating and scary and I kind of feel like I’m floating. You know, I’m just like a blob floating in space with no purpose. So, it’s weird when I’ve met my goals and then I’m not sure where to go next. 

    So I feel like, maybe if I made goals, they would either be too big or too small, but I also feel like Is this my perfectionism getting in my own way? Like I feel like I’m getting in my own way. So I wanted to talk about…. I’m kind of just going to brainstorm here in this vlog right now, about my goals for 2022. For this year. Because, I feel like I’ll feel better if I have goals to work towards. So I’m not just like aimlessly like what am I going to do? Let me just figure it out for today. And then tomorrow have to be like, what am I going to do? Let me figure it out for today. Like I feel aimless. So I’m going to brainstorm some goals right now, and I’m going to grab some paper so I can joy some stuff down also because I need some goals. So if you want to also come up with some goals, grab some paper and pen and let’s do this together. So, I’m gonna…. I’ve kind of brainstormed about goals a little bit already. So, I’m going to kind of separate it into personal goals and business goals. And I feel like the personal goals might be the easier ones, but that’s just me. Okay, so personal goals. Oh, my pen is running out of ink.

    Personal goals and business goals. 

    All right, I already had some stuff written up here. So ignore this but I’m just doing like personal and business and I’m just going to make a list because I love lists and lists help me a lot. So yeah list, I’m gonna start with personal because that feels easier.

    So personal goal. I also am going to set myself up for success because I know that if there’s something on there that I know, for sure that I 100% can do, then I’ll feel better because like I’ll have a goal that I know that I can meet. So I’m going to like start off with something that I know I can do to kind of like get the ball rolling. So I’ve already been journaling every day since January of 2020. So I’m going to continue to do that. So my goal is to journal every day in 2022 because I know that I can meet that because I already met it last year and most of 2020. So I’m going to do that, journal every day. 

    Still on personal goals. I’m gonna also continue to set myself up for success and do a couple more things that I know that I can do everyday or consistently, at least if not every day, just so that I know that I have goals that I can meet, and that way at the end of the year, if I look through my goals and I’m like, wow, there’s something I didn’t meet, but I’ll at least have some that I did meet that way. It doesn’t feel like you know, I’m a failure… because I know that I’m not. It’s okay to not meet your goals, that’s just like more things you can work towards.

    So another goal that I’m going to do for 2022 is to do Energy Medicine, energy healing on myself every day. Which I’ve already been doing almost every day for probably at least a year. So, I know that I can do that. Another personal goal that I’ve been thinking about is walking outside on a regular basis. So I’m going to say once a week, just because I know that like sometimes weather and responsibilities and other things can keep me from being outside, but I really want to be outside. So I’m going to say, take a walk outside every week. Walk outside every week and then if I do it more than once a week, that’s even better, but I least I’m going to do at least once a week. 

    Okay, so that’s just that’s like three personal goals. I’m going to start on a couple of business goals. I really would like to monetize my YouTube channel. So that requires at least 1000 subscribers and 4,000 plus watching hours over a period of 12 months. So that itself, like to monetize my YouTube channel, can be a business goal is to get at least 1000 subscribers and over 4,000 watching hours. 

    So monetize YouTube, which means 1000 subs and 4000 watch hours. So, If I want to do that, that also means I need to make more videos and share more videos on YouTube. So, maybe I will do… Maybe my goal can be like one video. A week. Or month, see I don’t want to, I don’t want to make it too frequent if it’s not something that I can do. I do want to challenge myself, but I also don’t want to put like huge amounts of pressure on myself to do things if I can’t do them. So let’s say I’m going to do I want to try to do at least one longer video a month and one short every week. So that way I at least have some content going up every week. Even if it’s not a long video and I think shorts have been really popular on YouTube. So yeah, I want to do more of those because I posted a short and then like two days later I had 800 views and I was my second most viewed video ever, so I’m going to keep doing that. Okay, so that’s like the main business goal is monetize YouTube. And then there’s some smaller goals underneath that in order to work towards monetizing, the YouTube.

    I want to continue doing Vlogs for y’all every week, so that can be another goal as a member like, website vlog every week. I already have like a list of potential topics to talk about, so I’m going to continue using that but also I’m going to put a survey below, so if there’s anything in particular you want to hear from me, let me know and I’ll try to make it. So survey will be below. Put the link in the caption down there.

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    This video is getting a little long and I want to spend some more time brainstorming goals, so I’m going to sign off of this video and continue thinking about goals and maybe in the next video I’ll go through the whole list of goals with you. So, you know what I’m doing. Thank you so much for being here. I love you so much. I hope that you can make some goals for yourself. Goals that are achievable, but are also, at least slightly challenging so you feel accomplished but not too challenging that you don’t do them because it just feels bad to make a goal then not succeed. 

    So yeah, I hope you get to do some achievable goals that are also slightly a challenge but not too much of a challenge. Yeah, I’m still learning. We’re all learning, we’re figuring shit out. None of us know what we’re doing. We just pretend. Okay. I love you! Thank you for being here! Goodbye!

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  • 1st Queer Creative Coworking Session is TOMORROW!

    January 4, 2022 /

    Do you feel like me in the image above (upset, sad, overwhelmed, frustrated…) when you realize how many things are on your to-do list?

    I took the above self portrait in May 2021 as I was processing a lot of difficult emotions. It took me until mid November to finally look through all the images and actually share them on my website.

    Those self portraits sat on my hard drive for 6 MONTHS because there were so many images + I was dreading having to look through them all in order to choose my favorites.

    I finally did it because I set up a container that included focused time + group accountability.

    I invited members of my website to join me live on zoom while we looked through the images, together.

    That (seemingly) simple plan made all the difference.

    We got through the whole day of images, more than I thought we would accomplish! I dreaded going through hundreds of photos, but having friends there with me helped me go through ALL of them within about an hour!

    I’ve done coworking with friends before, but I’ve never offered an organized group session where we can all work on our individual tasks/goals/creations with focused time + group accountability… until now.

    The first Queer Creative Coworking session is TOMORROW!

    I’d love for you to join us if this sounds like something that would benefit you!

    A few more details are below, ALLLLL the details are on the eventbrite page!

    Queer Creative Coworking!

    Do you have a list of things you want to do, but for whatever reason can’t get around to actually getting them done?

    Coworking / body doubling is a process that allows for mindful preparation, a distraction-free environment + group accountability to help us work toward our goals. When we set up focused time on a regular basis, we are more likely to make progress on projects that matter to us.

    Itinerary:

    • gathering

    • dive in with quick tips + review of community guidelines
    • introductions (name, pronouns, intentions/goals for the session)
    • somatic practice
    • 1 hour of focused work/creation broken up into 2 x 25 minute blocks with an optional 10 minute break in the middle
    • journaling +/ writing down plans for next steps

    • sharing our progress

    Join us live on zoom!

    Wednesdays at 10am EST

    January 5th – TOMORROW!

    January 12th

    January 26th

    February 2nd

    Since you’re a member, you get to join for FREE!
    Use code “BLMBR” for your free ticket(s)!

    This is an experiment! There are only 4 sessions scheduled to see how it goes, so if this sounds like something you’re interested in, join us while you can! I’m not sure if I’ll continue doing them in the future. ❤️

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  • I am self employed on the internet. Here’s how.

    January 1, 2022 /

     

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    Hey friends! Welcome to 2022. This is weird. I feel like time has flown but also crawled at the same time, and it’s really weird to think about time in general. So yeah, it feels weird that we’re already in 2022, but I wanted to start this year off by saying, hello and thank you for being here and I love you so much! And I literally couldn’t be doing any of this without you and I feel like I say that a lot, but it’s true.

    So I thought… I’ve had, I’ve actually had a couple people ask me like are you for real? Like are you making all this up? Or are you actually like a real person who is doing these things that you’re saying you’re doing? And are you actually like self-employed and all of these things? So I wanted to give you a little insight in my life and how you make it possible. So, here we go.

    Okay, if you’re new here, I’m Bunny, my pronouns are they/them. I’m… a lot of things but for the sake of this video and not making it take like 20 minutes. I’m an artist, I’m a queer person, I am an educator, I care about a lot of things and I have a lot of interests. So if I were to like list all my interests, it would take a very long time and be a very long video. So I’m just going to say I’m into creativity, queerness, nature, ecosexuality, healing, those kinds of things. Yes, I’m a real person.

    Hi, I’m Bunny, I do exist. And I know that some of you might be confused as to like what my business is, and to be honest. I’m kind of confused about it, too. I’m still figuring it out. I became self-employed in 2019, like full-time self-employed. I had been part-time self-employed since like 2010 maybe, and I took a long time to build up to being full-time self-employed, and also a lot of things changed in my life that kind of brought the self-employment to the forefront.

    So, I am self-employed because I don’t want to work for someone else. I’ve done that for a lot of time and I kind of suffered for it as a neurodivergent person. I don’t do well in a lot of “normal” work environments. So, in order for me to like, have a somewhat healthy experience of working, I definitely needed to be self-employed and like make my own schedule. And the reason I’m able to be self employed is because of members of my website. People like you who pay me an amount that feels good to you on a monthly basis to access all of my content and my blogs and all that.

    I’m going to get real with you. I don’t make very much money. I usually make less than a thousand dollars a month… or around 1000 ish a month. So the only reason I’m able to sustain this is because I live with my parents, like my parents… this is their house. This is my room, but it’s my parents house and my parents let me have really cheap rent, so that helps a lot. I don’t have a lot of expenses because my like, all utilities and internet and stuff are included in my rent. And my rent is also lowered because I do things around the house in exchange for cheaper rent. So it works out a lot for me. And I, I would like to make more money, but I also don’t want to burn myself out, which I kind of already have done. So I’m trying to not repeat that. I, I’m still figuring out how to do this self-employment / online working world stuff. Yeah, it’s hard for me to describe this because I feel like I still am figuring it out for myself. But in order to be transparent, I don’t make a lot of money. I don’t have a lot of bills and that’s why I’m able to do this and I recognize my immense privilege as a person who’s able to do this.

    One: I’m white. Two: I’m mostly able-bodied. Three: I have the support of my parents. Four: I’m skinny. Five: I’m like “conventionally attractive” whatever the fuck that means. And yeah, but I mean my whiteness and my family help are probably some of the biggest reasons I’m able to do this and I definitely recognize that a lot of people have to work a lot harder in order to just survive and I’m extremely fortunate and extremely privileged that I’m able to work 10-ish hours a week and get by. I’m not rolling in money, but I’m comfortable, and that’s mostly because of my privileges and the support of my parents.

    I’m 32. Wow, that’s weird to say, I’m 32. I live with my parents and it’s actually a really great situation, for the financial reasons I’ve already stated but also because my parents are fucking awesome. Like, even before I moved out, when I was like a teenager, my parents were really awesome. I mean, I didn’t move out when I was a teenager. I moved out when I was in my early 20s, I lived out of the house for eight or nine years before I moved back in. But yeah, I have a very fortunate life and I’m able to do the things that I do because of my privileges and the support of my parents, and the support of y’all. Like, literally my primary income is from my website. So if you are here and you pay me any amount of money, you are the reason that I’m able to pay any bills and like have food on the table and get tattoos and stuff like that. 

    The tattoo is my largest expense and it’s like… it’s definitely a big investment, in my opinion. But it definitely. I would have a lot more money if I was not getting tattooed about every month ish because tattoos are expensive and this is a giant one. It’s like half of my body. So yeah, I feel like I’m starting to ramble, but I wanted to say, yes, I’m a real person. Yes, I am actually self-employed with the caveat of I have a whole lot of privileges that make it so that I am able to be self-employed and able to, like, sustain myself on not a lot of money because like I said, I don’t actually make all that much money. 

    And I’m still learning how to do this in general. I would like to scale my business. I would like to make more money and support more people and offer more ways that I can be of support to people. And I’m still figuring that out and I feel like I kind of maybe pressure myself to do things like super consistently. Maybe before I know that those things are what I want to do. Like I really have enjoyed doing nude gatherings and I did them for I think it was eight months in 2021 and those are super fun. But I also was like pressuring myself to do them consistently every month and I did enjoy that and I also was like, yeah, but I do need a break. I definitely need a break. I can’t consistently do this every month without any breaks. So it’s a balancing act for me and I feel like I go between like, I want to do something on a consistent basis, and then, oh, I don’t want to put too many things on my plate because I’m already juggling a lot. 

    At the same time like am I challenging myself? Now this just kind of feels like a diary entry. So that’s what this is right now. I’m going to stop this video before it takes the whole day and yeah, I just wanted to share with you a little bit of behind-the-scenes of, like how my business exists and who I am and what I do and why you are the reason that I’m able to do anything at all. So thank you. It means a lot. I love you so much. I’ll talk to you soon. *mwah* Bye!

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  • Free tickets for coworking sessions!

    December 29, 2021 /

    An Invitation: Queer Creative Coworking!

    Do you have a list of things you want to do, but for whatever reason can’t get around to actually getting them done?

    Coworking / body doubling is a process that allows for mindful preparation, a distraction-free environment + group accountability to help us work toward our goals. When we set up focused time on a regular basis, we are more likely to make progress on projects that matter to us.

    Itinerary:

    • gathering

    • dive in with quick tips + review of community guidelines
    • introductions (name, pronouns, intentions/goals for the session)
    • somatic practice
    • 1 hour of focused work/creation broken up into 2 x 25 minute blocks with an optional 10 minute break in the middle
    • journaling +/ writing down plans for next steps

    • sharing our progress

    Join us live on zoom!

    Wednesdays at 10am EST

    January 5th

    January 12th

    January 26th

    February 2nd

    Since you’re a member, you get to join for FREE!
    Use code “BLMBR” for your free ticket(s)!

    This is an experiment! There are only 4 sessions scheduled to see how it goes, so if this sounds like something you’re interested in, join us while you can! I’m not sure if I’ll continue doing them in the future. ❤️

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  • Oops!

    December 9, 2021 /

    You probably just got an email from me about Queer Creative Coworking starting tomorrow….

    I accidentally scheduled the post to go live on January 2021 instead of 2022!! Please disregard, it’s not tomorrow, it’s next month!

    Don’t worry, you’ll get emails about it in a few weeks! 😊

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  • Last day for free video downloads + 50% off coupon code!

    December 5, 2021 /

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  • Holding Space for Difficult Emotions with Self Portraiture

    December 4, 2021 /

     

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    Good morning! Well, it might not be morning for you, but it’s morning for me, so I’m saying good morning. Today I wanted to just say hi and thank you for being here and I’m kind of struggling to figure out what I want to say. I think it’s because I put a lot of pressure on myself to do things in a way that makes sense, and I don’t always make sense, so the things I do don’t always make sense, and it’s okay. I’m a human. I don’t want to repeat myself on here, but I do also want to share cool things with you.

    So, I thought that I would just share a little bit of information… I think I already did. But about these photos that I’m about to share with you, that are down below. I already said some of it when I was talking about self portraits, was it last month, maybe October? Recently, I was talking about self portraits and on November, I think it was the 18th. I did a kind of like a co-working session, sort of like a, it was a sneak-peek preview of the self portraits that I had taken that I haven’t shared anywhere yet, which are these photos that are about to be shared with y’all!! Thank you. For those of you who came and joined me on Zoom live to go through the photos. That was really fun. I’ll probably do that again.

    So, the backstory for these photos, if you missed the blog previously, whatever that was. I don’t have dates in my brain.

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    If you missed the vlog these photos, I took, I believe it was in May of 2020…. 2021? No, 2021 for sure it was this year? Maybe this year? I’m pretty sure. It was in May, I think it was this year. I took them in my sister’s house, she had just sold her house. So I think that was this year. She had just sold her house and we had already like moved everything out of the house so it was empty.

    I used to live with her in that house for maybe a year and a half or two years and I had some pretty tough times when I was living there… for several reasons. Gemini is awesome, she’s a great sister. I love like, she’s easy to live with honestly. But yeah, like so the tough times didn’t necessarily have to do with her, it was just like circumstances. I had some tough times when I was living in the house, and since it was empty and I was there by myself, I took self-portraits. 

    I had a lot of feelings. A lot of feelings!!! and I just allowed myself to feel the feelings, because feelings are not always easy to feel. And sometimes I need like, to hold that space for myself. And sometimes the easiest way to do that is with photos, by taking self portraits and whether or not I ever share them with anyone. Like, it doesn’t matter as much, because to me what matters is the way that I feel and like allowing myself to have those feelings and like holding space for that. 

    Usually I’m able to like kind of focus and get in that zone when I’m taking self portraits, so I did that. I released a lot of the feelings, like, frustrations and sadness and upsets that I experienced in the house, in that house while I was taking the self-portraits before I could no longer go in the house. Like it’s already sold to someone. So that was actually the last time I was ever in that house. And as you can see in the photos, I was quite emotional. 

    And then after I like cried and released all my feelings, I just like danced around and got sweaty and was silly. And that also felt really good. Like it’s nice to kind of swing from one thing to another sometimes instead of like “oh I have to be really sad this whole day and let my feelings take over me for the entire day and focus on those.”

    I don’t have to do that. I enjoy like, “okay, let me feel it to my feelings and like release them and see how long that feels. And then after that, if I feel up to it, the maybe I’ll do something else that feels better. That can bring me back to my more normal okay self.” So I cried, was really upset and let myself feel all that and like, hold space for that. And then after that, I was like, all right, let’s put some music on and then I danced and felt more and was able to have a range of emotions in the house. 

    So, yeah, that’s that’s the story behind these photos. The ones where really emotional and like crying and stuff are in what used to be my bedroom. Empty, of course, and I actually I took a bunch that were really like dark and moody and then I also took some that were lighter and I really actually like the dark ones the best. I haven’t fully decided if I’m going to edit these photos yet, so whether or not I edit them, you’ll see whatever I did.  Because I haven’t decided, I’m probably going to decide about editing before I share this. And I haven’t decided yet as of making this video, so we’ll see. They’re all digital. I usually don’t edit film but sometimes I do edit video er digital because film just looks better and doesn’t need an edit. The digital like looks like digital and usually need a little bit of more like punchiness. So yeah, I haven’t decided about editing yet. We’ll see.

    These are the photos… after I took the photos in the bedroom, I moved to the living room, which is the purple room that you see. Gemini’s house is so colorful, I loved it. Her living room was purple, and her kitchen was like bright green color, and the bathroom was like, teal kind of turquoise-y kinda blue. Yeah, she had a really colorful house and I loved it. I don’t know if the people who bought it kept the colors or not, but I thought it was fun to live in a very colorful house.

    So yeah, that’s the story behind these photos, I hope you like them. I do have some more photos to go through that I have taken in the last year that I haven’t done anything with yet. So I might do another one of those like let’s look at them together live things. Yeah, so keep an eye out for that. I’ll probably do that again. Just not sure when I don’t have any dates yet, but I’ll of course let you know when that’s going to happen.

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