• Sexualization + Consent

    June 11, 2022 /

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    Hello, lovely people! Okay, in my last video, I talked about how nudity is not sexual. It’s not inherently sexual, its sexual if you make it sexual based on context and consent. So in this video, I’m going to talk about sexualization and consent, because as someone who’s naked on the internet, I get a lot of unwanted sexual attention from people specifically cishet men. *cough* Who like, I don’t know why but they just… because I’m me having like my bare breasts or my bare ass on the internet does not mean I want your sexual attention. That just means I have naked pictures on the internet. That’s all that means.

    I have been sexualized without my consent more times than I can count. Honestly, it was worse when I was on social media because I would get unsolicited dick pics or like masturbation videos from people that I had no idea who the fuck they were. Those are extremely uncomfortable to receive. If you are somebody who thinks that’s a good idea, it’s not. That’s only a good idea if the other person literally asks you for it. That’s the only time it’s a good idea to send a dick pic or masturbation video. I promise you. Nobody wants to see it unless they are literally asking you for it. Okay, If I don’t want to be like “AHHHHH” this whole time but I might. 

    So I know that there are some people who will sexualize me, just because I’m naked, because that’s the only way that they understand nudity. And I’d while I don’t agree with that because nudity is not inherently sexual. I understand that to a degree because our society, especially here in the United States. Our society is so like puritanical and it hides nudity from us unless they’re trying to sell us something and then they give us a lot of nudity and a lot of like tits and ass just to be like “here buy this thing”. So like the context around nudity in general, in our culture in the United States is really dysfunctional. So I know that there are people who are going to sexualize me just because I am naked on the internet. I don’t have any control over that. And people can do what they want to do with their own free time in their own private space. Like I… whatever their life is their life. 

    Whenever they bring that sexual energy and that sexual attention into my like conscious awareness and whenever they like, push that into my, like, bubble of like my life, that’s when we have a problem because that is not consensual. I do not consent to being sexualized. If you do it and never tell me about it and like never mention it and, like, it’s not a thing that I’m aware of like whatever.

    But as soon as you’re like, “yeah I masturbated to your video last night” or “oh my god, you’re so hot. I want to fuck you.” If you like send me a DM or something like that, that is… you do not have my consent to do that. That is a breach of my consent. I… no. I don’t consent to any of that. That’s when we have a problem. When you’re sexualizing me to my face or virtually to my face. You don’t have my consent to do that. I… no, I don’t tolerate. Yeah, that’s that’s when we have a problem, a big problem. 

    I do not consent to being sexualized. I don’t. If I wanted to be sexualized by someone, I would actually tell them. I’m a very communicative person in that regard. And if I wanted to have like a sexual situation with someone, then I would make that very clear. So, if I have not, which I probably haven’t with most people, yeah, I… you don’t have my consent. 

    Yeah, I don’t want to be like “I’m really angry and I’m bitching at the internet about it” for this whole video, but that’s kind of what it is and… it’s come to that. I don’t have much patience for this kind of shit anymore. I’ve been naked on the internet since 2010 and I have gotten a fuck ton of attention that I did not want because it was sexual. And I’m done doing that. So if you come at me in a sexual way, and I don’t even fucking know you, you better bet your ass that I’m going to block you. You don’t have my consent. You’re breaking consent. Your breaching consent. It’s non-consensual, so that’s what you’re choosing to do. So then I’m choosing to get you out of my space. Because that’s my choice.

    I hope some people can relate to this. I know I have a lot of friends in the, like photography, nude modeling world, that would relate to this. But I don’t know if the average usual person would relate to this. But yeah, if you didn’t get anything else out of this video, I hope that you at least get this message that I’m saying: if you are sexualizing me, you don’t have my consent to do that. So it’s only okay to do that if you do it, when I have no fucking idea it’s happening. In your own space on your own time. Not involving me at all. I do not consent to being sexualized. Nope. I don’t. No. I don’t want to be a part of your sexual fantasy. Yes. I’m naked. That has nothing to do with sex. See my other video if you’re confused.

     

    Watch my video: nudity is not inherently sexual

    I don’t consent to being sexualized. So don’t do it and especially don’t do it and bring my attention to it. I don’t want to fucking know, that’s none of my business. And my sexuality is not your business. I’m naked. Yes, but that has nothing to do with sex. Okay, the end.

    Yeah. Okay. I hope this video wasn’t too harsh for you. Maybe I did need to push some buttons. Maybe I did need to be harsh to get my point across but I yeah, I’m just fucking tired of getting unsolicited dick pics and unsolicited sexual attention. None of those are consensual. So yeah. Not cool. Not cool at all.

    Okay, if you have any information about things that you would like to see me share, I’m going to put a survey below and you can let me know what you want to see for me. Otherwise, thank you for being here on my website. I love you so much. I might sound angry from earlier. But yeah, I’ve allowed to be angry. I’ve been… my consent has been breached a lot of times. So it’s about time for me to be upset about it. Okay. I love you. I hope every great day and I’ll talk to you soon! 

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  • Nudity is not inherently sexual

    June 4, 2022 /

     

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    Hi, good morning. Well, I don’t know if it’s morning where you are, but it’s morning here at my house right now when I’m creating this so good morning. My voice is a little weird, but it’ll be fine. So I’ve been talking a lot about nudity recently and I’m gonna keep that trend going for this video.

    I’m going to talk about how nudity is not inherently sexual. I think this is important for a lot of people to hear because I think in our current patriarchal puritanical culture nudity is either shamed or sexualized or sexualized to sell something or just like hidden in general, which kind of goes along with the shaming part. And I just want to talk about it. Let’s talk about it. Obviously. Like I’m naked right now, so I don’t believe any of those things that I just said, in terms of it being shameful or sexual. So yeah, let’s talk about it.

    Okay, so we were all born naked. Like we didn’t come out with clothes on. And that is not a sexual experience whatsoever. We have to get naked to shower and that’s not a sexual experience. I mean, it could be, but it’s not inherently a sexual experience. showers are for getting clean, you know, washing your body. You have to be naked to be able to wash your body. There’s nothing sexual about it. People who have had a baby and if they are breastfeeding, that is a way that they are either nude or partially nude… in order, to perform a function like to feed their baby. That’s not sexual.

    There are so many things you can do naked. And it has nothing to do with sex. Like, you can clean your house naked. You can go on a walk naked. Well, if you have a safe enough place to go on a walk naked. You can cook naked… maybe with an apron to protect your skin if there’s gonna be any like popping oil or something, but like literally there’s so many things you can do, naked that have nothing to do with sex or sexuality or like being sexual and it doesn’t make sense to me I guess because I grew up in a house where nudity was not a big deal. And I really feel like people who grew up in a really like, “let’s hide that away. This is shameful, nudity is bad.” The people that grew up that way are the ones who grew up thinking that anything that’s nude is inherently sexual because like, “oh, that was something I was not allowed to experience when I was younger so there must be something about it that’s like bad or reason why I shouldn’t have experienced it so maybe that means that it’s all sexual.”

    It’s not… this is not a sexual video. I am 100% naked. I’m not wearing anything. I don’t even have socks on, like this is not a sexual video whatsoever. I’m naked and it’s not sexual. Who woulda thought?!

    Okay. So on the other side of that. So nudity is not inherently sexual… on the other side of that, you can be completely 100% covered in clothes and be in a sexual situation. The sex part has nothing to do with the clothing or not clothing part. They’re totally separate. Completely separate. I wish more people would understand this, and I’m not sure how to articulate it in a way that people will understand, because it just like makes sense to me, and when things make sense, I don’t always know how to explain it because it’s like, “yeah, duh.” So I just like, I don’t know. I’m trying to, I’m trying to describe this to y’all in a way that might hopefully change some people’s minds or maybe plant a seed. 

    So from my opinion, and I hope there are a lot of other people that also have this opinion. I’m pretty sure there are. Things that are sexual whether it’s sexual or not is based on the context and whether or not there’s consent. So context is so important! This context right now, I’m making a video and talking to you about something. So that is more of like an educational or informational context. That’s not sexual. Yes, I’m naked, I have no clothes on, but this is not a sexual context. 

    Another example, let me give you a clothing as sexual context. Maybe I am on a date with someone and we already have like a sexual dynamic going on and there’s consent involved and they know… I know, or they know, or we both know ideally, we both know that there’s consent in terms of like, yeah, let’s make this a sexual interaction, but maybe we’re fully clothed. But maybe we’re like really flirty. And yeah, that could definitely be sexual with no nudity, with lots of clothes, fully clothed. Context and consent matters.

    Okay. I don’t wanna repeat myself too much. I feel like you hopefully have gotten the point by now. I don’t know how to explain this in any other way at this moment. But if I think of something, I’ll make another video. But bottom line, nudity is not inherently sexual. If you’re naked, that’s not an invitation for sex. Or sexual attention. Period. The end.

    OK, I hope you got a lot out of this video. I hope you enjoyed it. Do you have something you’d like to hear from me? I have a survey, you can let me know what kind of content you would like to see. I’ll link it below. Thank you for being here. It means the world to me that you are even on my website at all. Thank you! I love you!

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