You Might Be An Ecosexual If…
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Hello, good morning. Well, it might not be morning where you are, but it’s morning for me. I just woke up like less than 30 minutes ago, but I’m excited to talk to you about stuff right now, and I haven’t been excited for the past few days, for some reason. But I have the energy for it now so I’m excited to talk about stuff and share with you! I’ve kinda been doing themed months sortof for a little bit but I’m kinda gonna not be super themed for this month and that’s okay! Because I’m changing all the time and the only constant is change and I like to be flexible and I feel like if I’m too rigid with myself then it becomes not fun anymore, so I’m allowing myself flexibility because this is my website, and if I’m not flexible on my own website then how am I gonna be flexible anywhere else?
So today I wanna share with you some information about how you might be an ecosexual if… and then I have a list for you. So if you’re brand new to my website and you’re like “what on Earth is an ecosexual?” The basic definition is someone who sees the Earth as a lover or a partner instead of as a resource to exploit. You can chew on that for a little bit. I’ll link it below, I have a whole page full of a bunch of videos all about ecosexuality so if you want to dive deeper into that I’ll link it in the caption below. If you’re like “I still don’t understand!” I literally have hours of me talking about this, so you can pause this and come back to it when you have a deeper understanding of what I’m talking about if you want. Or if you already know what I’m talking about, let’s go!
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So I wrote a list so I won’t forget anything so I’m probably going to be reading it some, I have a big notebook, it’s so big it’s bigger than my head! So I was thinking because I feel like there’s a lot of people that are like “I think I might be an ecosexual but I’m not sure” and they come to me asking if they are… and I pretty much always tell them, that’s not my decision to label you. You get to decide what labels and descriptive words fit you the best and if something feels good then that is something for you, and if it doesn’t feel good, then ignore it, it doesn’t have to be you. You get to choose. So even if some of these things apply to you or you resonate with them, but you’re like “I don’t really feel like an ecosexual”, then that’s cool! You’re not. These are just ways that you might notice that you really care about the Earth. So here we go!
You might be an ecosexual if…
You had a meltdown as a child when you learned what extinction was. I know I certainly did, I remember sitting on the stairs in my parent’s house, which is here where I currently am. Just, you know, maybe 50 feet that way, on the stairs. I remember I was I don’t know, maybe 6 or 7, and I literally cried for HOURS just sitting on the stairs just miserable and overwhelmed with sadness about how extinction exists when I learned that it’s a thing. It broke my heart into a million pieces. You might be an ecosexual if you had a similar experience, because I definitely had that experience.
You might be an ecosexual if you have a very strong connection to another living being such as another human or maybe a non human like a pet or an animal or a tree or a plant. If you feel really connected to another living being, you might be an ecosexual.
You might be an ecosexual if you love the tender act of tending to a garden and you rejoice at the sight, smell, sound, taste and feeling of it. I don’t really have my own garden, but sometimes I help my mom with hers and she has gardens like all around the house and it makes me super joyful to see, especially in spring time like this time of year, everything’s coming back alive after being all like, gray, and brown and dead for the winter. I just get so joyful, seeing all the like, fresh green, baby leaves everywhere and like, flowers blooming, it just… it feels like I’m coming alive again, too.
You might be an ecosexual if you have a spiritual connection with the Earth. I feel like my ecosexuality is connected to animism. It’s a different thing but it’s… they kind of really go hand-in-hand and if you don’t know what animism is, it’s basically kind of like a point of view. I don’t think it would be called like a religion because it’s not organized like that, but it’s more of like a point of view or a way that you see life and it’s where you see everything as being its own like living being like… I see trees and rivers and rocks as being living beings, just as much as I see, like cats and dogs and horses and humans being living beings. And they all have some important reason for being here. My personal view as yeah, there’s a purpose for everything that is here because if its here, that means it has a purpose and even if it’s something we don’t understand, we don’t have to understand everything, but just the fact that it’s here, life wanted it to be here. And that’s why it’s here… even things like mosquitoes and slugs. I love slugs. I don’t like mosquitoes as much, but like, mosquitoes and like wasps and things that are not necessarily the most fun, but they do have a purpose. Even if we don’t understand what that purpose is. In my opinion.
You might be an ecosexual if you prefer to spend time outdoors instead of inside, which is definitely me. And the only reason I’m not outside right now is because it’s kind of cold this morning and I just woke up and I don’t want to be like shivering while I’m trying to make a video. Yeah. So if you prefer being outside over being inside, you might be an ecosexual.
This one kind of really goes along with the last one, but you might be an ecosexual if you feel claustrophobic and kind of just generally uncomfortable in big cities, but feel really at home in really rural areas where there’s more trees and more open like land that’s undeveloped. I actually have been in contact with City representatives for where I live to talk about how can they please stop developing all of this land around the city that I live in because literally, they’re cutting down our lungs, which are the trees and we’re going to like… we’re going to run it out of natural spaces if we keep it, developing it all and we need the natural spaces in order to be able to survive as like a species on this planet! I digress.
You might be an ecosexual if you enjoy and receive pleasure from the Earth. And this one is kind of very broad and I definitely enjoy being outside and being connected to the Earth and I definitely receive pleasure from the Earth in so many ways, like just standing in the sunlight and having the sun on your face just feels so good to me as long as not like for hours and hours and get sunburned. Or just like being outside having my feet on the ground and just feeling the breeze on my skin. There’s… walking through a forest, the way it smells. Yeah, I just, I could talk about all the wonderful ways that I love the Earth, but we would be here for a really long time if I did that.
So that is my list. It’s kind of short but that is my list of signs that you might be an ecosexual. If you would like to use the ecosexual label for yourself, feel free. If the ecosexual label does not feel right for you, you don’t have to use it. It’s that simple. You get to choose. These are just some small guidelines, maybe to help you think about it if you’re not sure and you’re kind of on the fence and this is, of course not an exhaustive list because there’s so many other signs that you might be an ecosexual, but that’s just what was on the top of my head at the time that I wrote it.
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MEMES! Gender, labels, + consent, oh my!
I was sharing memes on instagram that included nude images but deleted them all when ig did their most recent update to the terms of service because I was scared of getting my account deleted AGAIN. My original account with 22.6k followers got deleted in October 2018 and I never got it back, so I really would like that to NOT happen again.
I still love the memes that I made and want to share them, so here are some of the ones that I used to have on my ig before I deleted them!
Photo: Chip Willis
Model + meme: me, Bunny Luna
I am angry today so I am channeling that anger into making my first ever meme. Hah, it’s funny that I’m choosing this as my first post since my hibernation. (TW: breach of consent) This meme is dedicated to the TWO middle aged white men who assumed it was okay to touch me without consent yesterday.
They obviously felt entitled to my body because I have a vulva and am younger than them? One rubbed my freshly cut hair on the top of my head, without asking or commenting or anything, just touched me out of nowhere. The other literally pulled me by the arm so I could pose for him in front of some photos of mine, and then proceeded to move my arm to get me to pose in a certain way. He didn’t even ASK if I wanted to take a photo. I told him my rates, and he laughed.
Labels are complicated, and have the potential to be both positive AND negative. As someone who has learned a lot about themself over the last year, and changed quite a bit, labels have been something I’ve honestly struggled with. It’s easy to say that labels are not important, and they don’t have to be if you don’t want them to, but for some people they’re incredibly important, especially when you’re trying to figure out who you are.
Labels are positive in that they help us figure out what space we occupy in the world, they help us describe ourselves to others, and they help us find community and people who are similar to us. Labels can be negative when people assume incorrect things about us, put is in boxes that don’t fit us, or when they refuse to see us for who we really are.
It feels awful to be labeled as something you’re not, and it feels amazing and is so affirming when someone uses the correct label(s) to describe you. No matter what, only YOU can choose what labels are right for you. There is nobody who knows you better than yourself.
Some labels that I personally use because they feel right and true for me: non binary, queer, ecosexual, non monogamous, artist, witch, demisexual, creative, sproutling (my mom came up with this to describe me to others instead of saying that I’m her adult child and I love it!)
What labels do you use that feel authentic to you?
Self portrait taken in Utah during my 69 day cross country road trip in 2019 (before I cut my hair obviously).
Never touch anyone without their explicit consent. Yes, this includes hugs with friends and family, asking or talking about someone’s tattoos/clothes/hair, directing a model for a photoshoot, posing with another model, kissing your crush…
The ONLY exception to this that I can think of is if that person is in immediate danger and there is literally no time to ask for consent.
Keep in mind, consent is not only for physical touch. You should also get consent when flirting with someone, commenting on someone’s body, sharing difficult or potentially triggering information, sharing a story someone told you with someone else, posting photos of people… basically if it involves someone else, you probably need their consent.
Have something to share about consent? I’d love to read your thoughts/stories in the comments!
Words: Douglas Pierce
Photo + meme: me, Bunny Luna (self portrait in Utah)
I didn’t save the caption for this one, but it’s pretty self explanatory. =]
I am not the person I was a year ago, or last week, or yesterday. You probably aren’t either. We are all on perpetual journeys of growth and expansion. Every day we learn something about ourselves, every day we become a newer version of who we know ourselves to be.
Without change there is no innovation, no deeper understanding, no growth. You are a bottomless ocean filled with gifts unknown, until you dive in and explore your depths.
Photo + meme: me, Bunny Luna (self portrait in Colorado)
I recently had a really difficult conversation about my gender with a family member who is unwilling to do the work to understand and accept me for who I am. Their response to my being non binary was that I’ going through an “identity crisis” and it’s something that I’ll “grow out of” once I figure myself out.
It’s especially frustrating to me that they feel that way, because I know myself better now that I ever have. I know that I can’t make them see me for who I truly am, and that’s their work to do, not mine. It still hurts that someone I love doesn’t actually know me and instead chooses to only see me as the person they thought I was when I was younger and didn’t know myself.
I will continue to correct them when they misgender me (which is something I am constantly struggling with and tend to just stay quiet about it), because I want them to know that this is ME, not an “identity crisis” that I’ll “grow out of”
Sending lots of love to all of my trans siblings who have to deal with this every day. It’s really hard, and you deserve to be honored and acknowledged in your gender. I see you. I honor you. You are valid and important and I love you for WHO YOU ARE.
Photo/meme: me, Bunny Luna (self portrait in Colorado)
I moved through the first 28ish years of my life carrying the layers of expectations and assumptions of society that were thrown on top of me as a child before I knew I had any other option. Now that I know more about how the world works, I realize that I’ve been holding on to many things that are not truly mine. Parts of me buckled under that oppressive weight of binary gender, compulsory cis hetero monogamy, religion, racism, and capitalism (among others).
I am choosing to let go of the layers of anything that is not for the benefit of myself and the earth. It is a constant shedding, and it is not easy, but it is worth it. I wake every day with less of what isn’t mine so that I can understand what truly IS for me. I learn who I am by questioning.
Self portrait in Colorado